Reasons for why the words homosexual and bisexual should be removed from the dictionaries

When I was 6-7 years old one of the children in the neighbourhood I lived in once asked me while playing with playmo “are you gay?” (in Norwegian). The question came out of the blue and had nothing to do with what we did. It had nothing to do with me. We were present by a playmo castle he had, in his home, and as far as I can remember we just moved some pieces around. There was definetely no kissing and no hugging and I said nothing, did nothing and did “not look in a way” that gave reason to ask this strange question. This was in the early 80s during the time of fear and uncertainty linked to the HIV and AIDS disease that had been discovered. Normal people were concerned about this “new” and scary disease and there was an uncertainty about how it spread.
Certain groups of people were pointed out to be possible risk spreaders because people had a need to label groups of people they perceived as risk.
Homosexual people were one of the groups. While my family and I later were on holiday during our stay in Hong Kong at Bali I also remember there was a monkey uncertainty with regard to spread of the disease.

The reason for why he asked the question has the very simple explanation that he probably had heard someone talk about homosexual people and about the disease
and wondered what it was about. That of course had nothing to do with me.

I remember well that I din’t like the question, because I understood what it was about, and perceived it as an insult when he asked, and as a consequence I responded in a childish way and said a not long time after to him “I don’t want to play with you”.

Being “homosexual” was already then out of the question for me. I already then had my eyes on girls at my own age in the area. I was not at all interested in same gender in any other way than being friends.

Later in life, after my experiences, I have realized that labeling people as homosexual, bisexual, lesbian etc, based on physical acts is unwise and not correct because it is not true that people are homosexual, bisexual, lesbian etc.
What does for example the word homosexual mean? Are two adult men who live in a same house or apartment, who have no physical contact, homosexual? Is it required that two men have “shit sex” to be regarded as homosexual?

Sexual acts is a matter act and not a matter of something a person is all his or her life.
A person may do something one day, and don’t like it, and decide absolutely not to do the same thing again.
All men, like women, probably agree on that what comes out from the back is shit.
No one likes shit.

When there is no clear definition of what it means to be homosexual, and because the word not in any way describe the complicated human nature, the way of categorizing people in such way is stupid and unwise. It is not possible to “decode” the complicated human nature and the sexual nature of people in such a way with one word.
And if a word, that is accepted even by sexologists, that describes a very important part of human nature is not true, is it strange that it can make especially young people confused and uncertain?

I am not married, and I was neither married in my twenties, and also then new that I was attracted to women. There are other reasons for why I am not married.

Because there was no clear definition of what it means to be homosexual, as far as I know and knew, I thought that if someone had shit sex they were homosexual. I have never use the word shit ssex before. I use it know to make a point.
I assume that many or some people who are labelled as homosexual don’t have that kind of sexual contact. Because no one likes shit. Everyone has an ass. That’s something else. It may be that also some people with a same gender who only live together, who are only good friends, also can be labelled as homosexual.

Many people have seen porn movies and in porn movies they can do different things.
This is matter of act. People who play in such movies often have body sizes, shapes and looks that make them attractive for such jobs. Not having a body size, shape and look for such jobs does of course not have anything to do with whether or not a person can marry someone and have a family with someone and live a family life which is an important meaning of life for many people.
Another thing is that someone for example great at doing an academic job, who hasn’t the look or shape fit for the porn job, sometimes may be wish they had it to have great sex with women fit for such jobs, and that the porn star sometimes may be would love to be great in an academic kind of work. And that both the person fit for the porn job and the person with the special ability fit for the academic job sometimes would have liked to be good in work other than porn and academics. People spend time differently and therefore are good at different kind of things and therefore also have different kind of advantages in life.

I remember in one of the classes at school that it was said or written somewhere that approximately 10 percent of people are homosexual. That is of course wrong because the word shouldn’t exist. A man is a man and a woman is a woman. Men and women can have children together. Women and men can, based on accepted thinking, “be in a relationship with a same gender” and be “homosexual” and later change his or her mind and decide to get into a relationship with the other gender. This has probably happened many times. People are under personal development all life in different ways and can make changes in how they live of different reasons . Not because people are bisexual.

The words don’t make sense and cause uncertainty and confusion. For parents or grandparents who dream about that their children or grandchildren get children I assume it can be quite confusing also if their children or grandchildren come home and say they are gay, when people know deep down that the words are nonsense and have other explanations when used.

When two people of a same gender want to live in a same home I think it is more right to say that they are friends or roommates. In my opinion more comfortable words that people understand that causes less confusion. People may not be friends or roommates all their life so why are people either homosexual or bisexual all their lives? The words simply don’t make sense.

People are curious and some people try out different things. That is a matter of act. Not about something a person is. What I have tried out and not is irrelevant but I have never had sexual contact with someone with a same gender and will never have.

The sexual nature of human beings is too important to be categorized with such stupidifying expressions. They should be removed from dictionaries.

Seoul, 13.09.2024
Christian M. Borge